How to be happy and succeed at a difficult workplace

What is happiness?

Happiness is inversely proportional to stress, sadness, anger, resentment et al. In simple terms the absence of these lowering emotions is happiness.

What does it mean to succeed?

Being able to fulfil most physical, emotional, materialistic and personal needs while being happy & healthy.

What is a difficult workplace? 

Any workplace where the combination of  “Colleagues being true friends/well wishers, A complete control over your working day & unquestionable authority” is lacking.

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Until and unless you are the CEO of Apple, Facebook or the likes, it is highly unlikely that you will call your workplace an easy one after reading my definition of it. In coming to terms with the reality of a typical job life, you do understand that colleagues are never your well wishers, your employers cringe at the thought of giving you authority and eventually as a result you end up having limited or no control over your day.

It has been proved scientifically that working with people you love, having control over your day and authority are the top three ingredients of a happy and successful working life. It has also been proved by research that 90% job goers never have the good fortune of having all three ingredients in the right proportions, rendering 90% of people who work – sore & unhappy. I would also term them unsuccessful, as the absence of happiness means they don’t fulfil my criteria of success.

Of course, exceptions apply but again probability says 99.235 % of people who read this post will nod in agreement.

How do you still be happy and succeed at a difficult workplace?

1. Be humble & try not to spoil relationships: Ever read the garbage truck story, google it if you have not. There will be negative people and moments that will provoke you to burn bridges little by little. Try not to. Until you have a better opportunity, chances are that you will need to deal with the same people day in and day out. Then why spoil terms? Flex your ego muscles everyday, until they are in your control.

2. Cultivate the craftsman mindset: Most of us tend to limit the efforts we take in proportion to the salaries we are paid. This is a wrong approach. Painter Picasso, Actor Rajnikant & Music Director A. R. Rahman always tried to put their best in whatever they did. This yielded them bigger and better opportunities as they went along. The craftsman always first puts his best into whatever he does and gets his fair result afterwards. Be the craftsman/craftswoman at office.

3. Build Career Capital: When you start working like the craftsman,  you end up acquiring skills that are “rare and valuable”.  Over time, this adds up and becomes your career capital. As this balance of career capital grows, you enable yourself to become eligible enough to negotiate with your employers. You are now in a position to demand control & authority. In simple terms, Build your career capital. Trade it for control & authority. Repeat steps 1 to 3.

And then one day when you’re chilling at the beach sipping mango juice, call me. 🙂

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What my photos teach me

I am an amateur photographer, or so I call myself. In fact, I don’t even know if I am fit to call myself that. I never use the Manual mode, which other photographers boast about using. I hardly know how to put ISO, aperture or shutter speed to work. I do not use tripods, lens filters, external flash, lighting equipment, lenses as long as machine guns or other expensive gizmos which seem to compliment a photographers personality.

I love taking pictures and thats about it. As mankind evolved I had the good fortune of using some good cameras and even good editing softwares. People started appreciating my photos and I started clicking more, and got more appreciation and I clicked even more. I guess I keep getting better with each shot I take.

Some of my personal favourites below. Have included a line with what each one teaches me. Now you have something more to love me for.  🙂

Life's a long journey, sometimes you break and it is rough. Eventually it is for good.

Life’s a long journey, sometimes you break and it is rough. Eventually it is for good.

 

Feel the air around you. Be into breezes!

Feel the air around you. Be into breezes!

 

Someone's missing you somewhere, call them.

Someone’s missing you somewhere, call them.

 

Stop and take a closer look, you might be missing something beautiful.

Stop and take a closer look, you might be missing something beautiful.

 

In becoming a a lovely rose, the bud makes its way through many a thorn.

In becoming a a lovely rose, the bud makes its way through many a thorn.

 

 

Up in the air

Life is a backpack. Imagine all the people, relationships, worries, responsibilities are inside this backpack. You’ve put it on. Try moving. Do you feel the weight cutting into your shoulders? How much of the stuff thats inside, really needs to be in there?

Every now and then, please separate the wheat from the chaff. Please empty your backpack and keep it light. Be a minimalist, if you want to travel far and travel strong. A negative person in life, negative thought, unpleasant memory has 10 times more weight than that of its positive counterpart. Throw these heavy things away, for good.

Now put your backpack on and get on the plane.

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Happy Journey!

10 ways to be and make people happy – 2

I like speaking my mind and writing it all. I believe in raising standards of life and honesty I feel is a catalyst.

Getting back to the continuation of last week’s post..

6. Exercise your brain like you exercise your body. Use it everyday.

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7. Empty your stomach everyday. Do all the practices that help you achieve this goal. I bet you will be happier and lite.

8. Write to me and may be complement. Try and intervene. Try and make some positive impact. Try and make someone smile.

Some ideas this week from someone whom I look up to.

9. Live in the moment – Most of us spend time reminiscing the past or worrying about the future, hence we lose the precious moment that we are actually living in. Make the most of what you have and be grateful for it! and you’ll be happy

10. Be Happy – There may be numerous tips and many  articles written on how to be happy; but you  cannot be happy unless  you make a  conscious decision to be happy. No other person or any external situation has the ability or a magic wand to grant you happiness. Only you can make yourself HAPPY.

Mad love to you again.

10 ways to be and make people happy – Part 1

Why 10? Because James Altucher says so. Who is he? He is just another person who has seen the lowest of lows in life, lost money, family, home and regained it all back. This is magic and I believe in success modelling. ( Doing what successful people do )

Why make people happy? Because most of the times, they hold keys to the locks that you want to open. Think on this for a moment.

Happiness is extremely subjective and at the same time is driven by few basic principles which seem to be universal. ( Sometimes not being able to understand life amazes me ) I have tried the ways described below and they have worked on me and for me. Read, believe, digest and see the magic happen at your own risk.

1. Appreciate Gratefulness = happiness. Be grateful to someone for something and the person on the receiving end feels a pleasant breeze sweeping him or her off the floor. ( TIP: Always remember, never say a naked thank you people want you to be exhaustive when you thank them, even if they know why you are thanking them, no harm in reinstating. I guess, appreciation is what people will never get bored of, no matter how many times they listen to the same thing.

2. Make people move Actions equal emotions. Good actions equal good emotions, lousy actions equal lousy emotions. When you are happy you are most probably looking up, breathing deep, and have sparkling eyes. No matter what the situation, get up and get going. Look up, breathe and ta da.

3. Connect  Connect with nature for a change, Connect with an old friend whom you haven’t been in touch for years, Meditate and connect with yourself, talk to yourself, connect with anything that makes you feel good. When you are happy, you are most likely to spread the virus.

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4. Give Give love, give care, give kindness, give advise, give money, give assurance, give strength, give security, give fun, give birth, give respect, give way, give away. Giving can only make you all the more beautiful and happy.

5. Share  Might overlap the above point but I saw a movie and it completely made me believe – HAPPINESS IS REAL, ONLY WHEN SHARED. I highly recommend you to watch this true story. – INTO THE WILD.

Will come up with 5 more ways next weekend.

Until then, Thank you for reading. I love you.